Welcome!  Before launching into an extended explanation about my favorite pastime, an introduction is in probably in order. My Facebook profile is public and fairly complete if you want all the details, but here are a few of the highlights.

I was born in Raleigh, North Carolina. I grew up in Snow Hill, a town with a 1950s population of around a thousand and the county seat of Greene County. My siblings and I are all "boomers." My grandaunt Winnie was daughter to a circuit riding Methodist preacher. After his death she married into the LDS faith, and dutifully became obsessed with genealogy. Her sister shared this passion, and together they generated hundreds of pages of family records and research.

My great-grandfather, Charles A Lasitter, was a land surveyor and later Greene County Register of Deeds. His son -- my grandfather -- was Mark Clinton Lasitter. He was also county surveyor after his father, but before that got a degree in Civil Engineering (Class of 1910) while attending the North Carolina College of Agriculture and Mechanic Arts, now North Carolina State University. He was certainly a big fish in a small pond, going on to serve as town administrator and mayor, as well as Fire Chief for 25 years and Trustee on the Board of Trustees of the University of North Carolina for 24 years.

I received degrees in Political Science and Master of Public Affairs, both from NCSU, enlisted in the Army for Officer Candidate School and then served my only tour of duty with the 3rd Army Cavalry Regiment in Ft Bliss, TX. Returning to North Carolina, I started NC Direct Marketing (hence the NCDM domain name) married well, and moved far away so that my wife could persue the medical career of her dreams. In 2025 she retired, and we returned.



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Genealogy: Why ...

This Wikipedia section covers many of the usual motivations for interest in family research, but I would expand on a few.

For billions of people in the world, knowing your tribal and family connections determines who you can marry and how high you can rise in life. Even without the advantage of literacy, societies track these relationships via elaborate oral traditions that go back many generations.

If you are like my grandaunt Winnie, religion is the driving factor. Per the Mormonism Research Ministry : "Genealogy. Research of one’s family history. Names are gathered so that those already deceased can have temple rituals performed on their behalf."

"The greatest responsibility in this world that God has laid upon us is to seek after our dead. Those saints who neglect it in behalf of their deceased relatives, do it at the peril of their own salvation." (Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, p. 193).


Maybe the most important family relationship issue for you is that you haven't turned 30 yet and are still living with or off of your parents. If you're afraid that you are seen as an embarrassment to the family you may be right. Good news! Your enormous gaming monitor is perfect for building and displaying family trees, and if you spend some time on it with your parents learning about your ancestors and family history, that could go a long way towards working yourself back into their wills!

Now then: Genealogy is learning -- about you and how you got here. It's about how the human race took a 300,000 year journey all around the world to get you where you are today. Your ancestors were part of a 30,000 generation trek that created 117,000,000,000 copies of themselves, of which over eight billion presently live.

Google "why learn genealogy" and you'll be presented with all sorts of fine reasons. Most will be pretty general. I much prefer the specific revelations of a Death Certificate.

In addition to dates and places for birth, death and usual residence, you can also learn a person's occupation and industry. You learn the immediate and contributing causes of death, whether an autopsy was performed, or if the body was embalmed or cremated and when the body was buried or removed for burial. It may be one of the few places to find the maiden name of the decedent's mother or wife (if married). And knowing whether a hereditary disease killed your relative could have important health implications for you!

Death certificates also tell the story of which of your ancestors died by accident, suicide, homicide or undetermined causes. And with genealogy, you will discover that it's often always a matter of time. We may no longer die by being thrown from horseback, but then perhaps you have a relative killed in an accident when early automobiles had neither seat belts nor air bags. Modern psychiatric drugs have only been around a few decades, and it would likely surprise you to learn just how many lives ended / were ended by poisons, hanging, shotguns, rifles, pistols, blunt force trauma, sharp weapons, farming accidents and the like.

Understanding how people lived is an important part of genealogy, as is understanding technologies of the time. Our ancestors didn't have modern lighters and fire starters, with white phosphorus "kitchen matches" not being invented and perfected until the early to mid 19th century. Factory workers making them were exposed to phosphorus fumes and developed "phossy jaw" or necrosis of the lower jaw which could then glow in the dark.

Understanding important dates extends both to scientific developments as well as human affairs, like wars. Inventions like the steam engine, the telegraph, the telephone, the wireless, photography and motion pictures, the electric light, electrification, the assembly line and the automobile, aviation, space flight -- all these and more help to make sense of genealogy records and events.

If you learn genealogy, you can't help but learn about the contagions and wars that pockmark human history. I learned that consumption and tuberculosis were the same thing, and that it claimed my great-grandfather, his wife, as well as their daughter that stayed home to care for them. Another great-grandfather died during the 1918-1920 flu pandemic, which likely originated in the US, but for WW I censorship and propaganda restrictions became known as the "Spanish Flu".




... versus How


The rules you follow while gathering and evaluating genealogical facts must take precedence over the effort of just sticking names upon a wall. Enthusiasm alone will not lead you to accurate results. I started off with boxes of records compiled from family bibles thanks to the efforts of my grandaunt and her sister, and even with that head start and the benefit of an unusual name, I still managed to make rookie mistakes.

But don't worry about it. Even if you go to  Brigham Young University and get a Bachelor in Family History degree, or somewhere else for a degree in library sciences, you will make mistakes. Doing well at genealogy, for the most of us, is about keeping mistakes small and recoverable. Happily the number of web resources on how to do good research is almost endless. Here are a few:
  • The National Archives
  • National Genealogical Society
  • Family Tree Magazine
  • Amy Johnson Crow is perhaps my favorite genealogy podcaster. Her YouTube videos are great teaching tools for how to do genealogy well.
  • Heritage Discovered gives good insight into how to take advantage of what is free and still maximizing your benefit when you decide to use paid resources.
  • Cyndi's List, has over 300,000 links of great interest to genealogists. Per the site it is:
    • A categorized & cross-referenced index to genealogical resources on the Internet.
    • A list of links that point you to genealogical research sites online.
    • A free jumping-off point for you to use in your online research.
    • A "card catalog" to the genealogical collection in the immense library that is the Internet.


My family tree -- and some of your options


For less than $20, I registered a great little program called GED4WEB -- which lets me take what I've entered on Ancestry and then share that in a freely accessible tree in my own cloud space. It's not nearly as pretty as Ancestry, but if you want to click here for a visit I promise that it will never ask you for a credit card or try to track you!

My Lasitter / Lassiter Descendants NC & VA is my public tree on Ancestry so feel free to take a look around there if you like. If you see something that's wrong, I'd love to hear from you!

mclasitteriii is my Ancestry.com UserId, and if you already have an Ancestry account, clicking on that link should put you in touch with me.

Ancestry does offer Free Registered Guest Accounts and while they're limited compared to the paid accounts, they are certainly better than nothing!

I give lots of money to Ancestry every year just for the convenience Ancestry represents, but with all the good free genealogy web sites out there, I don't recommend it for everyone.

FamilySearch is completely free and a fantastic resource. The folks there (LDS Church) have constructed a ginormous tree where most of your ancestors are likely already included. Just search and link in your grandparents and "whoosh" ... your tree is basically done for you.

This "family tree by committee" produces a result that is much more accurate than many of the family trees you see on Ancestry. It's both a great strength and a weakness of Ancestry that there can be thousands of family trees available for a person in question. People go to Ancestry because they want it "my way". And because of the advertising, of course.


Hidden Gems


Thousands of genealogy web sites have spent millions on "search engine optimization" (SEO), such that they end up at the top of the search results, without regard to how useful they are. I've found that some of the best web sites (and software tools) are not only often free, but a joy to use, and I'll keep adding to this list as things come to mind ...


MyNameStats is a free website that does not bombard you with ads, and it gives you some essential info about names when you're trying to figure out just how rare a certain name is. It also has a page where you can list up to five names or variations, and it will provide a grid showing stats for each. This can be invaluable when you're trying to find that needle in a haystack.

  • FastPeopleSearch is a people finder site that doesn't immediatly hit you up for money, and also lets you get by with an adblocker most of the time. Enter a name and a city and you get a treasure trove of info about living people, their spouses and other probable relatives.

  • Chronicling America, Hosted by the Library of Congress, gives you free access to millions of pages historical newspapers which have been scanned and digitized.

  •   IrfanView is my favorite editor for simple editing and viewing of pictures. It's FREE, fast, full featured, and comes with loads of plugins.

  • The "decennial" US Census an important tool in genealogical research, and it becomes even more powerful if you understand how it has changed since its first debut in 1790. The Pudding author Alec Barrett gave us The Evolution of the American Census, a fabulous visual tool that makes it easy to see how questions have come, gone and changed over 230 years (1790-2020). Additional explanation of Census instructions are available at the National Archives. Clues in Census Records 1850-1950

  • Keeping track of where your ancestors lived means keeping track of actual migrations, and also when they stayed still with county and other governmental boundaries moving around them. Some of my ancestors settled in what was then Craven county, NC, only to see it become Dobbs, Lenoir, Glasgow and then Greene county. One great resource for following these fluctuations is mapping software like the AniMap County Boundary Historical Atlas. I'm using the 2010 3.0.2 version because sometimes older is better, and because after the original authors died, whoever claimed to take over does not appear to be updating a program for which they now requre an annual subscription. (right click and copy this link)

  •  Family Tree Maker (FTM) is genealogy software that's been around for 35 years, and while it's not dirt cheap, it is certainly worth every cent. Ancestry originally created FTM, but eventually spun it off to Mackiev, which has worked wonders with it since. FTM lets you build a family tree on your local computer, then upload it, and synchronize it to a copy of the tree on Ancestry. It can simultaneously keep you logged in to Ancestry and Familysearch, pulling information from both sources! It's unlikely that you'll ever use all the features FTM offers.

Family Trees Are Never Perfect!

You may not have noticed, but Ancestry is grading your efforts. Only you as the tree owner, or others you assign as "Editor" can see your tree grade but you should prepare yourself: There is no perfect "10" on Ancestry. I do, however, have one modest tree that has garnered the Gold Star and the associated "Elite" rating!


I've worked very hard on my main tree of around 20,000, and I have taken care of most things that can be easily fixed. It still requires significant additional effort, but the 9.9 "Top Tree" is as high as it can go.
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